Love and Marriage: 8 Things to Contemplate Before You Call It Quits

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Date: Sun, 6 Mar 2011 Time: 8:34 PM
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Hitting the doors and leaving literally everything can sometimes sound logical when you're in the threshold of "I-can't-take-it-anymore". But like anything else, temporary as they may seem, there are some things you can do in order to patch things up.

Love and marriage should not be taken for granted simply because you've been missing out a lot of things in your life. It can be whether you believe it or not, as exciting as you want it to. All it takes is a deeper sense and understanding of what Love and Marriage is all about.

1. Never forget to tell your spouse those three little words - and most importantly you should also know how to show it not just say it. Telling your spouse "I love you" should be as easy as when you first said it on your first date. Of course, a few years later you have kids, mortgage to pay and tons of bills you can't simply overlook but this should not hinder you from being a loving partner. Marriage should not be looked on to as a trap where you can't get out from but an opportunity for you and your partner to explore your love for one another.

2. Compliment each other - the exchange of "I love you" is not enough, in all things you should compliment your partner no matter how small their achievements may be. Keep in mind that in love and marriage, you both have a big responsibility about the confidence and emotional wellbeing of each other. You have to keep tabs on your partner's good deeds and refrain from flaw picking.

3. Share responsibilities - Although women and men have different responsibilities in marriage, nothing beats a couple who knows no difference between what they need to do to keep things working. Men can take care of babies as well as women do and women can be bread winners as well as men can. Working together makes you your children's role models and it can also make each responsibility lighter and easier.

4. Talk, not argue - Before you think of throwing a tantrum about how your partner is treating you unfairly, sit down and relax or if you can't hold that temper of yours, lock yourself inside the closet or cool off in a distant place. Once your nerves are calmed, talk. It is much easier to sort things out without prejudices or when you're no longer hot headed.

5. Date once in a while without a schedule - having a scheduled date is flat out boring. Be spontaneous, experiment a little, and surprise each other once in a while. Don't let your excitement die down just because you're married. Being married should make you all the more excited about having dates and night outs. Who says that marriage has to be boring and bland?

6. Don't talk about problems after work, early in the morning or before bed - The more you are stressed the less you should talk about problems and other affairs that can add to the stress you are both experiencing. You can wait for the right time to talk about problems when both of you are not tired and stressed out.

7. Expect everything from your partner but don't push it - have a high expectation from your partner. Most marriages end up in the dumps because you have no or little expectation from each other. Having high expectations is a challenge and challenges can add spice to your marriage life. Expectations should be set so that both of you will know what your responsibilities are.

8. Sex don't last but have it anyway - And most importantly, make sex a part of your relationship even after 10 or even 20 years or so of marriage. Learn how you can still use sex as a way to express your love for each other. This may sound off, but sex is admittedly one of best ways to keep your love and marriage with your spouse.

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Victoria Hemmingway is a freelance writer who specializes in the human condition, love and marriage. For Free advice on relationships and dating vist us today.